Gay Hearts

If I can contribute something to make the lives of gay men and lesbians a little better, that is my goal. If we all contribute what we can, our lives will be enriched and we will stand up with unity and mutual empowerment. I am dedicated to service and this is where I choose to serve!

Thursday, May 05, 2005

Gay Immigration to the US

A friend recently wrote to me that he has a job as a supervisor. I responded by telling him I'm glad that he has a good career position as a supervisor. Having a stable career is always helpful when someone applies for a visa to come visit the USA. The US Embassy needs to be convinced that he will return to his country after his "visit". I've been working with others who wanted to come and visit and they had a much harder time because their work was not as high as a supervisor. They had jobs which required supervision from others. That is why the US doesn't want to welcome such people as visitors. It's unfortunate but true.

I've had many frustrations with friends who have tried to come here. A few of my friends have actually gotten here but of the 6 of my friends who made it here,

1) A friend from Uruguay went to New York but never came to Los Angeles, so I don't know how he did.
2) A friend from Poland came to Los Angeles and eventually got his citizenship (as pictured here).
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3) A friend from Indonesia got married (we helped to find him an appropriate wife) and is in the process of applying for his green card ... he lives with a boyfriend in San Diego.
4) A friend from Ukraine came here for a visit, went back, came again and had to restore his status by crossing out and back into the US but he got caught and his visa was cancelled and he ended up being deported. I don't think he will ever come back.
5) A friend from Latvia came here and attended school but had to drop out because he couldn't work and he couldn't support himself and he had to go back to his country. He was not prepared to live on his own in a big US city like Los Angeles.
6) And a friend from Australia came here but had problems with marriage (we tried to find him a lesbian wife but she tried to extort money from him) and trouble keeping jobs until he got taken in by a loner-type man who seems to have his situation under control but this benefactor keeps him on a short leash and none his friends is permitted to have any communication with him, so we really don't know. The results are 2 successes, 2 failures and 2 unknown results. But I've also had many foreign visitors who have come here just for a visit and they have enjoyed their stay and have returned home to their respective countries without problems.

My interest is to work with gay men who are experiencing some sort of persecution at home because they cannot be all they want to be in their own country or culture if they are gay. Some of these friends came here to find better lives (economically) but not necessarily to escape anti-gay persecution in their own countries. I have no intention to devote my energy to improving a gay man's economic outlook because I need to devote that energy to MY OWN economic outlook! I really prefer to invest my time and interest in guys who are really suffering simply because they are gay. Right now, I am working and brain-storming to help guys in Iran, Armenia, Uzbekistan, Ecuador, Singapore and a few other countries. I don't think it is fair that people have to suffer from persecution just because they are gay and they have the misfortune to have been born and raised within the borders of a country which has limiting laws and narrow-minded people.

If you have any suggestions to that might assist these guys in getting to the USA, please tell me. Thanks.

3 Comments:

At 7:04 PM, Blogger Qivan said...

Hi guy, just found your blog, and like it. Congrats on sticking with your partner so long. Gives me hope.

 
At 11:22 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi my name is dario im a foreigner from italy and is more than one year that im trying to adjust my status and live in us with my boyfriend, but seems that nothing else is easy than marriage, well he doesnt wants me to do it, i really need help dont know what to do. i told him that will be easy for us.

 
At 9:53 PM, Blogger hishusbear said...

Hi anonymous. Please click on my website and find a link to my email so that I can respond directly to you.
www.alanandsteve.com

It has been my passionate goal to support gay folks in repressive parts of the world to find ways to live with greater freedom of expression. It always seemed unfair that anti-gay repression was worse on one side of a national boundary than on the other, so I became very committed to help my brothers and sisters around the world find solutions for that repression. I have a lot of great ideas and suggestions.

My passions are NOT stirred to help economic refugees find comfort in a richer nation. But if I help a person who is encountering anti-gay repression, it is usually an extra benefit that they end up in in countries that are more economically privileged.

So helping a guy from a relatively progressive country like Italy, it would simply be an effort to help you find a way to live with your lover. However, your lover could also move to Italy and you could both find plenty of freedom to live and love there. You do have that alternative and many others in this world don't have that.

If in the process of marrying an opposite-sex mate, you encounter the phrase "fraudulent marriage", remember that marriage, since the beginning, has been an alliance and most marriages throughout history have involved financial agreements (dowries, for example), so what you would be doing would be right in line with marriages throughout history.

Next, I advocate gays and lesbians to form alliances because this is a very natural alliance and nobody is disappointed if the two of you don't have sex together.

Beyond that, I would want to give you my recommendations individually via email. My support takes the form of ideas, advice, suggestions and referrals. It does not involve legal advice, finding a partner or financial help. If that type of support can help you find happiness, I would be delighted to give it to you to the best of my ability. My only request is that when you receive good things into your life, that you pass them along to others someday.

 

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